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3 Things You Can Do To Regain Control Of Your Life After Suffering A Setback

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So, after your personal or professional setback, your family and friends told you to take it easy and relax and give yourself some time to get back on your feet. That's all good and all, but it's been months, years since you slowed down, and you are still being bullied by self-pity, low self-worth, and lack of confidence in the wake of your setback!

In this post, I will share 3 things you can do to take back control of your life after suffering a setback.

When is the RIGHT time?

So, your personal or professional setback has set you miles behind! You see your family, friends, and colleagues getting ahead, while you remain stuck in your undesirable situation! They seem to have the time of their lives while you remain smothered in fear, self-doubt, anxiety, and situational depression. Why are their lives getting better while yours seem to worsen?

You know your family meant well when they advised you to take a breather, but all the breaths you took since, have brought you nowhere! You are still stuck! You know it is time to try something else, but you have no idea what to do!

My friend, I agree with you! It is time to regain control of your life and get back in the game! But, unfortunately, life and time are not waiting for you! Indeed, there comes a time when you gotta take responsibility for your life again.

The Nature of Life

You must understand life doesn't happen to us! Life happens from us! The universal law of cause and effect is always at work in our universe, whether we are ignorant of it, know about it but choose to ignore it, or reject the idea that the law exists. The law of cause and effect states that every single action in the universe produces a re-action, no matter what! Therefore, every single effect within our worlds has a cause, an original starting point.

Sometimes, we find ourselves in the wrong place at the wrong time, and accidents happen. Still, most of the time, our choices, decisions, compromises, and actions, cause the events and chain re-actions that create our circumstances!

Indeed, every cause has a consequence, and there is no way we can escape a trail of effects. Whether the rocket we sent off was positive or negative doesn't matter. Optimistic rockets have positive consequences, while negative rockets have negative consequences.

Being unable to stop the rockets we launched in pain and negativity from manifesting sounds like a prophecy of doom! But, on the contrary, if you understand how to use the law of cause and effect to your advantage and deliberately start launching positive rockets, this law is going to save your life!

Here are 3 things you can do to regain control of your life after suffering a setback:

#1 Ask yourself: "How did I get where I am today?"

Now that we know every thought, feeling, and action has consequences, you can ask yourself how you abused, neglected and ignored the law of cause and effect!

The idea is to grow in self-awareness so you can go forward, always examining your thoughts, decisions, feelings, compromises, and behavior under a magnifying glass and select them carefully in faith, knowing what the outcome of your choices will be!

We don't really have an excuse for becoming victims of this law as we can see the law at work around us 24/7! And it was also written:

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge in it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words. (Proverbs 18:21)

Therefore, my friend,

  • Choose to accept the part you play in the creation of your circumstances.

  • Become super self-aware.

  • Stop blaming others and decide to entertain no more excuses, compromises, and people-pleasing at the cost of your dream and well-being!

#2 Launch DIFFERENT Rockets

You must understand, my friend, if you fail to adjust your current state of being, your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions and choose to remain stuck in your setback, you launch more and more negative rockets, fueled by despair, frustration, fear, worry, and self-doubt into space! These rockets will, inevitably, also manifest in your circumstances - by law! Therefore, to end this loop of negativity, you must launch different rockets!

Suppose your setback was something like a divorce, the loss of money, the loss of a loved one, a job loss, or the loss of a dream business; and you are stuck in the circumstances you dislike, you must deliberately create a new cause before you can reap a new effect!

Indeed, you must purposefully send off a different type of rocket by choosing new thoughts and other feelings and taking other actions! The more new types of rockets you launch, the sooner new consequences will begin showing up!

There is no other way! If you continue down your current path, nothing will change. Nothing can change!

Einstein said:

"Doing the same things and expecting different results is the definition of insanity."

Therefore, if we desire to experience new results, a breakthrough in our lives and circumstances, what we send out on every level our of being, must change!

#3 Raise Your Vibration

You must raise your current vibration to get unstuck and change your circumstances.

Feeling low and miserable, depressed, constantly worrying, doubting, and fearing cause you to live in a very low vibration. Staying in this low vibration, as you just learned, will only create more of the same!

However, raising your vibration will help you reach for better thoughts and ideas, cause you to feel better, and enthuse you to take different actions!

How can you increase your vibration, you may wonder?

You can raise your vibration by doing gratitude exercises, expressing neighborly love, and living with positive expectations.

You can also raise your vibe by identifying an activity you find therapeutic such as listening to good music, painting or some other form of art, singing, meditation, pottery, dancing, gardening, a hobby, or whatever gets you in a different zone. Then, go into that zone as often as possible and allow the therapeutic zone to fill, nurture, and guide you. The longer you remain in that healing state, the longer you will be kept out of the danger zone of low vibration!

I raise my vibration by listening to music by Josh Groban and Andrea Bocelli! Their music scoops me up like an Alladin's magic carpet and escorts me to places in my mind where I find rest, inspiration, and peace.

So tell me in the comments below what your go-to therapy is that inspires and uplifts your mood!


Today we learned that the current effects you are experiencing result from choices, decisions, and actions you used to send off into space. You know now that we cannot stop the momentum of the effects in motion, whether positive or negative. Negative causes have adverse effects, and positive causes have positive consequences.

However, if you take responsibility for creating new circumstances by purposefully creating a new cause and building its momentum by launching new types of rockets backed by a higher vibration, you can change your life!

My friend, it is time to invite your loving family to watch this space because the space you filled while suffering the harsh effects of your setback, is about to vacate as you are about to bounce forward into an exhilarating future!

Follow this link if you want to join one of my high-energy, life-transforming courses! Let's get that long-lost sparkle back in your eyes!

I am Alta Nel.

Blessings to you!

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